Why you shouldn’t chatgpt your vows
I have heard a wide variety of vows over my years a celebrant. I’ve seen how partners react, guests react, and I’ve also edited so many drafted vows. Trust me, I know when you use Chat. AI has a certain syntax, a structure, if you will, with the way that it writes. The em dash ( — ) is the biggest give away.
Although I have only had a few clients use it, most so far have been great at using their own words. But I also recognise that not every person is good at writing or are able to articulate the way that they feel. However, your partner does not want to hear what chatgpt wrote for you. They want to hear in your own words how you make them feel. Why you want to marry them. What you want to promise them. What is the life you are going to create together.
Whilst Chatgpt might help you formulate the words you are trying to express, it does use open source data so it pulls from other parts of the internet. So you might start with an idea, put it into chat, and then all of a sudden your original idea has been influenced by how chat has written it and the original meaning is lost.
So I feel it is my duty to share the best with tips with you.
In my vow guide that I share with all Married By Leah couples, I explain that first, you need to look at the content. What should your vows be about and what should they include. The second part focuses on structure. If you’re my client I have plenty of examples of how to structure them.
The goal of your vows is to tell the person you are marrying WHY you are choosing them as your person. You really want to focus on how they make you feel.
Essentially, start off simple using this structure:
How you felt when you first met
How you knew it was forever
What your partner’s love gives to you
What makes you both laugh
What makes you both tick
How you’ll help them get to their goals in the future
5 things you promise
I consider your vows to be the heart of the ceremony. They are positioned in the middle so we build up to it and then afterwards we head back down through the legal elements and then finish with a celebration. This is why it is so important to be truly and completely yourself.
If you value good vows I have a further offer for you. I have spent a good time putting all my knowledge and examples into a workbook. It takes you through thinking exercises to help you start to build on your vows. If you’re interested, it’s available in shop on my website. Clear here to see more.
